A man has asked if it’s wrong to insist on a DNA test after he bumped into his ex in the supermarket and she tried to hide her three-month-old baby who she says was born prematurely.
Discovering you’re pregnant at any stage in life can be a shock. So can seeing your ex-girlfriend of one year with a one-year-old baby. If you were faced with a child that could very well be yours, and red flags are cropping up all over the place, what would you do?
One man has posted to Reddit asking advice about this very thing, after bumping into an ex in the supermarket.
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He saw her in Asda and she tried to hide the baby. Source: iStock.
“I want to know if this baby is my son”
“Last year my girlfriend and I broke up (at the end of June/July) because we realised it wasn’t working and we both still had feelings for our previous exes,” the man wrote in his post.
He said they were only together for one month but they had sex and he’s convinced her three-month-old baby is his.
“I saw her in Asda (UK) and she tried to hide,” he continued.
“I messaged her and she told me she won’t let me do a test but she has no proof he’s not my son, he was 8lbs 4oz when he was born although she says he was one month early.”
He’s skeptical of her timeline and he said he will leave her alone if the baby isn’t his, but if he is, he wants to be a part of his life.
“I want to know if this baby is my son because I would like the chance to step up but would I be an arsehole to demand a DNA test to be sure?” he asked.
“If it comes back negative then obviously I will leave her alone but if it comes back positive I want a relationship with my child.
“If she is telling the truth he would have been conceived in August because he was born in April but if he’s mine he would have been conceived in June/July.”
Does she have to prove him wrong? Source: iStock.
What are the chances?
There was plenty of speculation over the laws in the UK and whether or not a mother can register a birth and name the father without his knowledge, but everyone agreed it’s worth figuring out.
“You want to step up and be a father if the child is yours,” commented one person. “At over 8 lbs, it’s unlikely he was a month early. I’m sure it’s not impossible and I’m no expert. But the 8 lb babies I’ve met were always full term or even late.”
Another speculated, “Willing to bet the reason is that she’s told her current partner that the baby is theirs.”
And one pointed out that the man’s first step should be finding a lawyer: “If this kid could realistically be yours, you need to lawyer up and get that test, for everyone’s sake. HOWEVER, you have to realise that this will at the very least make the relationship between you and her strained. She clearly doesn’t want you to be a part of this kid’s life, whatever her reasons are. You also have to be ready to apologise unreservedly if the test comes back negative.”
They pointed out that doing this now is a lot better than walking away and having the child knock on his door years into the future after he’s made a life without him.
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